You know when its time....

Today I had my long anticipated phone consultation with the very special and most amazing Jon Gabriel.  It was the last part of my Case Study program that I had left.  A one on one consultation that I had waited and held off having till I felt ready to make the most of it.

Of late, life has been so good.  Yes there are ups and downs but my healthy handling of them has been a real achievement and testimony to the holistic benefits of the Gabriel Method.

As time goes by habits and life for me can get a little boring.  I am the kind of person always looking for the "next big thing" or the next bit of excitement.  I am learning this more and more about myself.

Recently I felt I was slipping back into some not so healthy habits, nutritionally, mentally and physically.  And I am so grateful that I now have such a good self awareness to address things before they become the next big failure!.  (habit of the past).

I have allowed Gluten to invade my life (especially wheat)... not so much like before but I'm realising that I have been giving myself permission to eat bad food (a food that is bad for my health) and this in turn has become a bad habit.  

Finding that fine line between Self discipline, self control and self loving can be really hard to do sometimes!

What I have to often do is STOP.. LISTEN .. LEARN .. then ACT... its a process that takes time to do sometimes and I don't always give myself space to do it.  But I knew 2 weeks ago it was time to STOP.. listen to my heart and my self talk... learn some lessons and ACT...

This lead me to seek help from the most amazing NLP (Neuro linguistic programming) coach and good friend Joel de la Cruz from:

 http://www.yourrelationshiporacle.com/ 

Joel and I go way back and its been such a pleasure to see how smart he is when it comes to people and relationships - so its no surprise he is known as "The Relationship Oracle". 

Joel and I had a NLP session where he helped me identify some stuff that I actually didn't fully appreciate about myself. 

After I had my NLP session with Joel I knew it was time to speak to Jon Gabriel.. to take my Nutritional and Body journey to the next level.. to REALLY show myself how important I am.. and worthy of living happy, content and healthy.  

Today was the day I had my consultation with Jon.  He is AWESOME, AMAZING, Inspiring, generous and totally "gets me".  I can chat easily and freely with him.. and he never judges but he never lies either.. he will tell you what he thinks.. and I like that!.

Today as expected (and if I am honest wanted) Jon told me if there was just ONE thing he wanted me to change forever that would be to NO LONGER eat Gluten.. which, I had adopted that lifestyle once before but it had crept back in when I got too lazy, life got too busy or too hard.. BUT.. I needed to hear this from the one person who could tell me to NOT do something and I actually DO listen to..  I allow Jon to have this power over me because I absolutely trust him.  Jon actually had a few golden nuggets of advice that I will be implementing them.  

The more I trust myself the more I understand that The Gabriel Method, though a program of adding.. there are some things I choose to ditch too.. BUT it does not need to seem like a DIET.. because there is NOTHING diet about it.  I can trust that its a tool box.. a tailor made set of value and principles that I have adopted to let me be the healthiest mind, body and soul.

I don't think Jon fully knows the power he has over me and the respect I have for him.. I know Jon as absolutely trustworthy and that is a place held by just a few people in my life.   

Over time I may not have so much contact directly with The Gabriel Method as I just take on the lifestyle as my own but I have decided that is OK..  When something becomes too conditional in my life I know then I have made it into a "diet" or diet mindset.  But the fact that its been well over a year since starting to learn the Gabriel Method and I'm STILL doing it.. STILL living it.. and STILL LOVING it. AND ITS WORKING!!   I know its a Keeper.. and that's what counts.. and its through CONSISTENCY and NOT complacency that I will achieve my goal of being a medically healthy weight, a well balanced emotionally stabled and loving friend, wife, sister, mother.

Consistent Living - Keep it, Switch it, Ditch it!

Today I was doing some gardening.. It is always good for my soul and helps me relax and meditate.

I found today's Theme that comes to my mind is "Consistency"  so I thought I would meditate on it some more and thought I would write about what Consistency means to me and why for me it's the Key to following the Gabriel Method.

I like to look for inspiring photos or quotes to go with my blog and this led me to this photo:

I decided to look these verse up and smile...

Philippians 1:27-30

New Life Version (NLV)

Fight for the Faith

27 Live your lives as the Good News of Christ says you should. If I come to you or not, I want to hear that you are standing true as one. I want to hear that you are working together as one, preaching the Good News. 28 Do not be afraid of those who hate you. Their hate for you proves they will be destroyed. It proves you have life from God that lasts forever. 29 You are not only to put your trust in Him, but you are to suffer for Him also. 30 You know what the fight is like. Now it is time for you to have a part in it as I have

As a Christian I know too well the Truths of the Gospel and living a Christ Centred life.. and one thing I have also known for the 35 years I have known Christ as my Lord; is that Consistency is a common theme. 

Consistency means to me developing GOOD habits that are LIFE GIVING, Loving and Honouring (to oneself and others).  

With my new life using the Gabriel Method, consistency is a common theme too.. which probably why it makes so much sense to me and why for the last year I have stuck with this as a lifestyle choice.   

Habits are a normal part of life a healthy life.  Choosing which ones to adopt and keep is something that I have discovered to be a process that can take time.

Habits can take 21 days to establish but Consistency is the KEY.  

The choice is yours if you want to develop a habit or change anything.  

It's my choice TODAY.. to live Consistently, honouring to my Beliefs, making good choices to improve and promote my Health,  and to increase my Happiness through loving!.

Anything that tries to sabotage you Consistently living is NOT life giving.. only you can decide if you should keep it, switch it or ditch it.    

1 year into the Gabriel Method and My Life Giving Garden

The physical change in One year of following the Gabriel Method

A big part of my Transformation Journey revolves around my Garden.

We live in Suburbia .. a 600sq block of bliss.  The house we bought had a 25yr old established garden with "rooms".  It endeared us from the start and helped sell the house to us.  

When we moved in we began to add to the garden, moulding and reshaping it.  We found great joy in personalising it.  We discovered new plants, added our own then Last year we decided that it was time to do a little permaculture - Vege gardens, practical planting, life giving.

We have a Pond that we transformed

Our new Veg Gardens have been created

These two areas are passions for me.  When I am feeling stressed just standing LOOKING at my garden soothes my soul.

As I have embraced a new adding regime of Juicing Live Greens Vegetables, fruits and Herbs my garden is even MORE important to me.   

On a whole, I find the Gabriel Method is MORE about the Soul Change and LESS about the foods and supplements.

Gabriel Method is about ADDING.. and this for me came in many forms.. Adding value is personal.. its not Prescribed and its not a Diet Regime.  

Life long change can come slowly at first and then when habits and attitude change then the body starts to Transform.

I had 40 years of being the Caterpillar.. the last year has kind of been the Cocoon - a quiet time of change and a slow emergence will happen when I am finished the process and maintain the lifestyle

 

Removing Toxins and Toxic Shock Syndrome

Today's theme is about Toxic People and those people you encounter every so often who always know how to poison your mood.

Today was one such day.....

I won't go into details of the circumstances surrounding my detox moment, as those are really not the issue.. but I will go through what I call "Toxic Shock Syndrome".

No I don't mean the nasty infection caused by Tampons, I mean the mental and emotional aftermath from interpersonal relationships that become poisonous to your soul.

I have had enough abuse dished out at me through out my life to easily sniff out a toxic person... a broken person who likes to whip out their bag of toxic baggage and inflict enough to be civil but enough to also be fatal.  But I am still learning to be brave, strong and mature enough to know when to say NO MORE!

Today.. I encountered a toxic person.. since meeting them online I have maturely ignored many things they wrote.  I held my tongue from engaging in defensive conversations.. Or I would write my thoughts and feelings down in a Venting fashion and then bin them without publication. 

Some days I had civilised conversations which gave me hope that things would be better, but then other days I would have interactions that would be a battle of wills... and today was one of those days....  Today was the last straw for me.. .. and I let go of that negative person once and for all with No apology and no regret.

Toxic Shock Syndrome is the time during the difficult encounters and after the events when you dwell and agonise over what to do.. Do I cut that person off.. Do I "fluff myself up" like the cat and continue to defend myself.  Then the self doubt kicks in.. Am I over reacting.  Is it MY problem.  

For me I have been getting huge amounts of self confidence and TRUST in myself.. I have finally decided its only ME who can choose the path of my life and happiness.

Its when you hit the self doubt stage that you need to STOP.. put on some meditation music and listen to your soul..   

We all have encounters with people who rub us up the wrong way.. and not all of them are Toxic to the point of needing to erase them from our life.. but for me.. TODAY... I knew it was time..  

Whist looking for inspiring graphics to go with my blog post I found this great article written by dotJenna called 100-traits-of-toxic-person  I think its awesome and really helpful and I think its ok to know people with a few of the traits.. we are all guilty of having TOXIC moments.. its what makes us human..   dotJenna concludes her list with this helpful advice:

"If you suspect that someone is toxic, chances are, you're right. The best thing to do is to go with your gut and trust your intuition. Ignoring your intuition can leave you in a state of confusion. Toxic people are good at playing on your emotions, making you feel ashamed, guilty or obligated to let them treat you with disregard. Don't let that happen! You are a worthwhile person and you deserve to be treated as an equal in ALL RELATIONSHIPS. Don't settle for less. Put up your boundary and pull back or permanently away."

Today I choose to LISTEN to my intuition.. 

I hope that my friends and nearest say of me that I am a Healer, a Giver, a Doer, Appreciator, Cheer Leader, Affirmer, Life Giver, Generous, Fun and Friendly. 

If I can be the essence of an Anti-Oxidant  I think I am on the right path.

Final sharing from dotJenna's blog

Relationship Spring Cleaning 

Do an overhaul of your relationships, a "Spring Cleaning" if you will. You will find that you're not really missing anything if you walk away from a toxic person. Here's an excerpt from Cheryl Richardson's book,"Take Time for Your Life."

Since soulful connections require an investment of time and energy, you'll want to choose the people you spend time with wisely. To determine whether a relationship drains you or fuels you, ask yourself the following questions.

1. Write down the name of a person in your life.
2. Am I able to be myself with this person? Do I feel accepted by him/her?
3. Is this person critical or judgmental of me?
4. Does the relationship provide an even give-and-take exchange of energy?
5. Do I feel upbeat and energized when I'm around this person, or depleted and drained?
6. Does this person share my values? My level of integrity?
7. Is this person committed to our relationship?
8. Can this person celebrate my success?
9. Do I feel good about myself when I'm with this person?

Time heals all wounds after its wounded all heels!

Wow its been two weeks since I last posted.. confessing my struggles.. well.. what a difference a week or two makes....

I feel back on track.. back in the game... on top of it all...

This last week I have been concentrating on LIVING.. and keeping emotional eating at bay... I have been meditating using the Qi Gong techniques I have learned from  Gabriel Method Qi Gong and I have also been using inspiration from Brian Killian who produces the Gabriel Method Fitness program and also been juicing more and eating more live food.. with all this ADDING I finally feel back on top of life, coping with the blips without eating the Junk Foods and  feeling blue.

Life is still stressful at time; finances can still be erratic but I am still focusing on Abundant thoughts and Abundant beliefs - living generously and God is really honouring this as money seems to come in right when we need it!!.. 

Life to me is about consistently moving forward even when it feels like I have come to a standstill.. we need those STOP moments to regroup and to assess when things need to be changed or developed. 

Never let a Blip in the road sabotage all the great work LIVING you have already achieved!